Helping Children After a Tornado
What Parents & Caregivers Need to Know
As the Saint Louis Crisis Nursery supports our Saint Louis community following last Friday’s devastating tornado, we are thinking of all of those impacted by the storm, especially the youngest among us. Experiencing a tornado is terrifying - for children and adults alike. In the aftermath, it’s completely normal for kids to feel scared, anxious, or upset and to process those emotions in many different ways. For parents and caregivers, supporting children through this difficult time can feel overwhelming. Below, we hope to offer guidance on what to expect and how parents and caregivers can help children cope in the days and weeks after a tornado.
Common Reactions in Children After a Natural Disaster
Children often struggle emotionally after experiencing a tornado. Some typical responses you might notice include:
Heightened fear and anxiety about their own safety and the safety of their loved ones.
Increased clinginess and fear of separation from parents/caregivers
Increased worry during storms and when hearing sirens
Changes in appetite, sleep, mood, and behavior
Some children may have trouble focusing, become more active, withdraw, or act out.
Physical complaints like headaches and stomachaches
Repetitive talk or play about the tornado, including asking many questions
Regressive behavior in young children, such as bedwetting, tantrums, or using baby talk
Rest assured, all of these reactions are normal signs of stress and fear.
How You Can Support Your Child
Children look to the adults around them to determine how to respond. Here are some things to keep in mind when responding to children’s feelings and behaviors:
Calmly reassure them and remind them they are safe. One of the best things that parents can do for their children is to be a calm and reassuring presence. Remind them they are safe and loved. “You’re feeling scared. It’s okay to feel scared. I’m here and you’re safe right now.”
Be mindful of adult conversations and exposure to media. Children are often more perceptive that we realize. Be aware of adult conversations and limit media exposure that could contribute to more fear and anxiety.
Offer extra comfort at bedtime. Bedtime is one of the most difficult times of the day for many children even under typical circumstances. It feels scary to separate from parents and caregivers. After a traumatic event, children may need more support to fall asleep - whether it’s staying in the room with them, leaving on a nightlight, or allowing some extra snuggles.
Give kids opportunities to help. Let your child help in small, age-appropriate ways. Simple tasks like picking up debris, organizing belongings, or helping a neighbor can give them a sense of control and purpose.
Be patient and stay hopeful. Children’s behaviors may be more challenging right now. Try to respond with patience and empathy. Remind them – and yourself – that healing takes time and things will get better.
Maintain routines when possible. Even in disrupted situations, sticking to familiar routines can provide comfort. Try to keep regular mealtimes and bedtimes, if possible.
When to Seek Additional Help
If your child’s symptoms continue for several weeks or worsen over time, it may be helpful to reach out to a trained counselor or therapist who can provide additional support for how to cope and move forward.
Children feel most secure in the steady presence of an adult who loves them. These are challenging circumstances for so many St. Louis families and parents don’t have to have all the answers. By providing a safe, nurturing environment, you’re giving your child exactly what they need to start healing. If you or someone you know needs extra support, the Crisis Nursery is just a phone call away. Our 24-Hour Helpline is available anytime of the day or night at 314-768-3201.